No how-to on fellatio would be complete these days without a discussion of deep-throating.
Three decades ago, when Linda Lovelace brought attention to this technique in the now-legendary movie Deep Throat, it was a novelty item. Now it’s basically mandatory for mainstream porn actresses.
Why deep-throated?
While being deep-throated certainly feels good, the turn-on is more psychological than physical.
One reason: It’s both dominant and submissive—dominant because of its python-like voraciousness, and submissive because the giver is basically saying, “Here I am, committing a literally unnatural act, overriding my gag reflex just to please you.”
It also offers up a great visual —“Wow, look at it go all the way in!” This is an excellent trifecta—but the turn-on is mostly in the guy’s mind. If you just want to deliver physical pleasure, you’ll often do better by using the hand-and-mouth techniques described here.
6 Tips for Incredible Deep-Throat
For those who wish to learn how to take a penis into your throat, here are a few tips.
1. Find the correct angle
Straighten out your neck and mouth (as though you are looking way up) so the penis you’re pleasuring can travel in a straight line from lips to throat.
Otherwise, it will need to bend to transition from mouth to throat and while the occasional dogleg penis is out there, most cocks are fairly straight and prefer to stay that way. (I’m referring to angle, not orientation.) One relatively easy way to align yourself for the deep throat is to lie on your back with your neck and mouth hanging right at (not off) the edge of the bed.
2. To keep from gagging
The gag reflex is at the top back part of your mouth. When the tip of the penis (or anything) hits this area, we reflexively try to push it out—it’s Mother Nature’s way to keep us from choking.
To keep from gagging, we need to:
Angle the natural curve of the penis so it’s aimed downwards, not up. This way the tip hits the bottom of the oral canal rather than the top where the gag reflex is located.
3. Practice the more to less sensitive
Train the reflex to be less sensitive by practising with a dildo or firm cucumber. Hold it against the area for 10 seconds at a time, a few times a day. The more you do this, the more control you’ll have over your gag reflex and the better you’ll be able to slide a large object—like, a penis—down your throat without your gag reflex protesting.
Or do penis stretching training for him if you need it...
4. Wet, wet, wet!
Make sure you use lots of lubricant on the penis. You don’t want something dry tickling the back of your throat. It doesn’t feel good.
Water-based lube is your perfect choice as fragrance-free with a pleasant, sweet taste for oral sex.
5. Relax & Enjoy
Last but not least, relax. If you’re feeling anxious or tense, you probably won’t be able to take him down very far. Try not to pressure yourself to learn it quickly or to do it every time with ease.
6. Delight Him! Have fun, too.
Remember that you want to have fun, too. The more you enjoy taking his penis into your mouth or throat, the more he’ll be delighted, too.
Try to delight him or have fun with you both with some little foreplay vibrators.
Three Keys to Great Fellatio
Finally, we can make a Tips Summary---Three Keys to Great Fellatio:
show genuine enthusiasm, make eye contact, and use more than your
mouth.