Many women get real pleasure from anal play and anal sex, but even while having vaginal sex, some men desire to stimulate their mistress' anus additionally. It is a perfect way to reinforce general feelings. If the woman has never had anal sex, additional anus stimulation in the process of sexual interaction will help prepare her morally and physically for the process.
What is Anal Sex?
Anal sex means inserting the penis in your partner's anus. The anus is the tail end of the digestive system, which is not part of the reproductive system and is not ideally designed for sex. The anus and rectum are home to the residue of the digestive system - feces, bacteria, and viruses.
Sex Toys for your Anal Play
Non-Vibrating Anal Beads
Coming in all different sizes, they're amazing for beginners. This beginner-friendly sex toy is incredibly versatile and gives users a taste of anal play without going full out. They can also be used for advanced anal play to increase anal stimulation. It's a great anal sex toy for anyone.
Dildos can be used for any hole and come in various shapes and sizes. But for anal sex, you need to be cautious. You want to make sure your dildo has a flared base to prevent it from being...err...sucked in. So, always make sure your anal sex toy is designed to stimulate you the right way and has a flared base.
The good ol' cock ring. Although this is not an anal sex toy, the cock ring is meant to sit at the base of the penis, restricting blood flow to intensify orgasms and stamina. Cock rings usually come with a vibrating attachment for additional stimulation. So combine that with an anal sex toy of your choice for added stimulation.
How to Prepare for Anal Sex
If you follow these tips, fears never manifest into reality—thank god. So, it's time to learnhow to prepare for anal sex.
#1 Know your bum
Your partner doesn't know your bum. That means you're going to need to get acquainted with it. Your rectum is a small, tight hole. So, before you go straight to anal sex, start practicing by inserting a finger or a small toy.
#2 Don't do it because you're pressured
If your partner keeps bugging you to have anal sex with them and you don't want to do it, then don't. It's your butt. So, you get to control what goes in and out of it.
If you're curious about anal sex, then tell your partner you are but need your own time to get comfortable with the idea. And if then, after all that, they're still bugging you—ditch them. They have poor brain function.
#3 Clean yourself before
Before having anal sex, you want to ensure your bum is cleaned. People have this association that anal sex is dirty, but the bacteria in your anus naturally fight infection.
However, many people don't want poop on them, so ensure you hit the bathroom before and wash it.
#4 Use dark sheets
Some people are worried about having their sheets stained with… butt juices. If you live with your parents, that's a decent worry to have. So, I recommend covering your bed with darker sheets to prevent any questions from being asked at the dry cleaners. If you're worried, try having anal sex in the shower. Much easier.
#5 Don't go straight to anal
So, you're going to have anal sex tonight; that's great. However, you don't have to jump right into it. It's more enjoyable if you do the traditional foreplay and sex.
That way, the woman will be naturally lubricated and aroused. Then have anal sex. Going into anal sex right away is like driving a car in winter without warming it up.
#6 Lube up
You'll need a lot of lube. Aside from rule four, make sure you remember this one. Lube.
Before the penis even gets close to the bum, you must ensure it's lubed up. Don't be shy with the lubricant; you can never have enough lube. You want the penis to slide right in without any problems.
#7 Go slow
Having a penis enter your rectum is one thing; having it jammed in is another. It's traumatizing. Both of you need to be calm and take a breath.
So, if you want to prepare for anal sex the right way, go slowly with the penetration. That way, if it's uncomfortable, you'll be able to readjust yourself for an easier and more pleasurable experience.
Cleaning For Anal
After knowinghow to prepare for anal sex,it is important to know about its cleaning.One of the main worries with butt play tends to be hygiene. While this is a fair concern, very little fecal matter is housed in the lower part of the rectum and the anus. To help prevent any accidents, it might be helpful if the person who will receive the play has a bowel movement before it begins.
A shower beforehand can help clean the external areas and help the muscles relax before anal play. Some people like to squirt a little water inside their butt to clean it more thoroughly, sometimes called anal douche. While this can be effective for cleaning, it is essential not to use too much water and not to put soap or chemicals inside your body.
How to Choose the Right Anal Toy for You
With such sex toys available, it can be hard to know which one to go for. Each toy has its unique design and use and might be used for solo masturbation or use with a partner.
One of the first things you need to consider is experience level; when deciding this, you must be honest with yourself. There is little point in thinking you can handle something more substantial than you can. This will only lead to disappointment and, in many cases, discomfort. Adding on to this, there's the size you need to consider because not all anal toys are about size. Instead, it's the stimulation factor. If this is your intent, smaller anal toys can deliver as good an experience as possible. This will be more evident if you seek something like prostate stimulation because these are generally thinner and angled in the direction of the prostate gland.
Next up is the material choice, and in the case of new users, it is better to stick to softer materials, as these can mold to the body and are not as intense. When you compare silicone to steel, there is a considerable difference between the two in the sensations they deliver, for example.
Pros of Anal Sex:
● It can improve the level of intimacy you and your partner share
Having a trusting, healthy relationship is essential. For both of you to enjoy anal sex, you need to have these variables in place. If you do, chances are, when you give anal sex a try, you will feel closer than ever before.
● It will take your relationship to the next level
Feel as though your sex life is stuck in a rut? Give anal sex a try! It is exciting, and it is something different – and it is a great way to spice things up.
● It is healthy
Unlike vaginal sex, there is no risk of pregnancy with anal sex, so your partner can finish inside you. You can enjoy all the benefits of semen, including its benefits as a stress reliever, anti-depressant, sleep enhancer, energy booster, and libido-booster too!
Cons of Anal Sex:
● It can increase your risk of infection
You need to be careful about when and how you have anal sex, as you can not only transmit your standard sexually transmitted diseases but also E.coli. The HPV virus can also lead to anal cancer. Make sure you use a condom to keep everyone safe.
● It is messy
Yup, it is not all neat regarding anal sex! As a woman, you probably enjoy being clean and smelling nice. Not much is delicate or pretty about anal sex, even if you shower beforehand.
Which position is best for anal play?
If you are new to anal play, the most natural and comfortable position is doggy style. This is the same for solo play or with a partner. Suction cup anal dildos are ideal because you can set the height and control how hard you back on to the dildo to receive the best amount of comfort and pleasure.
I have heard anal can hurt; is this true?
The sphincter is a vital part of the body but is also delicate and contains thousands of nerve endings. Readying the body for anal play does take time. This is why many anal sex toys are tapered so as not to go full force. With lots of lube and taking your time, the anus will relax and get used to anal play. You might even "come" to love it!