Some people will say that any sex is good sex, but if you’ve been in a relationship for a while, you know that from time to time, it’s important to spice things up and try new things.
Sex isn’t everything in a relationship, but keeping sex exciting, fun and enjoyable for you and your partner means putting in the work, and not doing the same thing day in and day out.
When a couple has a good relationship, they usually have a good sex life too. And the mutual is true as well; the bedroom and your connection are inseparably connected. So connecting in the bedroom as often as possible will force you to connect outside the bedroom more often.
Here are some tips onHow to Spice Up Your Sex Life.
Love Your Naked Body
Women who have sex lives feel good about their bodies. They see themselves as strong and sexy. Try to avoid having a negative body image. Typically, when a woman looks at herself, her eyes go straight to her problem areas, and those feelings are carried into the bedroom and when her partner is kissing her thighs, she’s busy thinking, ‘God, I’m so fat!’ To boost your body confidence, give yourself a reality check.
Try New Positions
I said no injuries would be involved, and I meant it. But I am certain there are many positions you have yet to try recently (or at all). There are many resources and illustrated books to give you some ideas. Make a point to try a new position each time you make love.
Touch and Tease
It’s extreme, yes, but highly effective. That’s because when you tell yourself you can’t have Something, you want it even more. The same is true in the bedroom — especially if you and your partner have been together for a while and sex has become automatic. Instead of focusing on the end game, learn to enjoy the sensuality of sex. Tease yourself — and your partner. Get undressed, dim the lights and take turns exploring each other’s bodies.
Tell Your Partner How to Turn You On
Men want to be your knight in shining armor when it comes to sex — they’re eager for you to tell them what feels good. Help him, and yourself, by showing him what turns you on. Put your hand on top of his and guide him in how you want to be touched — including how much pressure to use. When you’re ready to move on to oral sex or to bring in a few sex toys, speak up. This is the only way he will know what works for you.
Change Your Routine
When you’re worried out, it’s impossible to feel sexy. That’s because when a woman undergoes chronic tension, her body produces higher levels of oxytocin, which cancels out the effects of the sex hormone testosterone. As a result, your libido takes a nosedive. Recharge your sexual batteries by doing things that let you break free from your hectic everyday life. When you’re relaxed and feeling good about yourself, sex will start to seem within the realm of possibility again.
Be Confident, Make the First Move
A recent study found that the leading predictor of a woman’s marital happiness was the level of her husband’s emotional engagement. You need to feel close to him to be inspired to make love, and he often needs sex to feel close to you. If you two are spending quality time together, you’re happy. But when you’re feeling disconnected, your relationship and sex life suffer.
How to break the stalemate? Make the first move. Do something simple like thanking him for the little things. When you give him a little gratitude, it’s a huge bonding moment for him. In response, he’ll start turning back into what you need, and you’ll be much more likely to want him in return.
Do Something Exhilarating
Believe it or not, your chances of having sex later are increased if you laugh and have fun together. You two will connect in a way that triggers the feel-good chemicals (like when you fell in love).
Types of Toys That Spice Up Your Sex Life
Need a few specific suggestions onHow to Spice Up Your Sex Life? Here are a few products you can add to the bedroom to heat things:
Wand-Style Vibrator
While it’s estimated that 60% of women own vibrators, some women feel anxiety over the possibility of the toy being discovered. Luckily, a wand-style vibrator looks about as bland as a kitchen utensil but packs a longer-frequency vibration's power to reach the pelvis's deeper nerves without irritating tissue. It can be wiped clean and doubles as a back massager.
Heated Mattress Pad
Many women do not want to have sex if they feel cold. Warming the bed before she slips between the sheets relaxes her, making nudity more appealing. While this might not seem the sexiest of additions, it is probably the most useful as the weather grows cooler.
Water Vibrator
Double-person tub can save a relationship by giving the couple time to be together and be naked. What could make this scenario even more conducive to sex? A small, battery-operated, waterproof vibrator to get her excited.
Penis Ring With Vibrator
Worn by a man at the base of his penis, these rings have a clitoral stimulator to provide a slight buzzing during intercourse, increasing her odds of climaxing.
Advantages ofHaving Sex Every Day
● Feeling closer to your partner
● Showing affection to your partner
● Finding it fun and pleasurable
● A desire to have children
● Feeling confident and sexy
● Relieving stress
Disadvantages of Having Sex Every Day
● Back Pain in the Lower Back
● Losing interest in the middle of an act
● Exhaustion
● Sore Penis
FAQs
Is sex necessary in a relationship?
The importance of sex depends on the individual and the couple. Not everyone needs sex to feel close to their partner or happy in their relationship—but some do. Talk to your partner about your desires and find ways to stay emotionally and physically connected, whether that involves sex or other forms of non-sexual intimacy.
How often do couples have sex?
While frequency varies based on various factors, including age and marital status, research suggests that couples have sex an average of once per week.